All humans beings’ history begins in intrauterine life.
The story of all human beings begins with intrauterine life. Nancy Newton Verrier, an important American psychologist, in the field of adoption, mentions that all life histories include the emotional bond between a mother and her child, when he/she is still inside the womb. Such an emotional bonding is a continuum of psychological, physiological, and spiritual events that begin in the womb and perpetuate after birth. When this natural evolution is interrupted by a separation from the biological mother after birth, the resulting experience of abandonment and loss leaves a mark on these children. This experience causes what for Nancy N. Verrier is the “primal wound”, an adoption trauma. There are other theories that consider childbirth itself to be a traumatic experience. I like to think of adoption as a ‘passage’. The experience of being given up for adoption makes me think about a sense of passage.
And I think that that passage, from birth to another Mother, while it leaves a mark on the adoptee, that mark can be alleviated. I aspire to find a way to alleviate, mitigate this passage, and thus make it as less traumatic as possible. And after having read and studied a lot, I have my own conceptualization. Instead of talking about a ‘primal wound’, I prefer to talk about pain. A pain that is inscribed somewhere, and which cannot and should not be denied. But that can definitely be alleviated. And I’m very interested in finding out how it can be attenuated, rather than victimizing adoptees.
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